What do you really want?


Part 5 of a 7-part series - How change led to a journey of self discovery

“Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes” (Carl Gustav Jung)

Getting things started can take a lot of time and effort. However, once started, events and situations have a way of generating their own momentum. When playing a key role in starting a business it is easy to be swept along with ego and emotions and to lose sight of why you did it in the first place. I love starting initiatives, inspiring others, being influential. I’m not great at completing things and I get bored by day-to-day operations and management. However, I have always enjoyed the spotlight (as people who know me will vouch!)

As we launched Hansen Beck, my ego naturally wanted to have the recognition of a leading position. However, on holiday and through discussions with my wife Jackie, I stepped off the conveyor belt and was honest with myself. My passion is training and making a difference to my participants and customers. My quality of life comes from doing what I love not from status or responsibility.

While it was hard to step back, it was the right thing for me. I can still be rightly proud of what I did to get our new business started. The future contribution I will make will be far greater than if I had taken the wrong role for the wrong reasons

Call to action: Be honest with yourself. What do you really want? Why are you doing things? Do the things that make your life better rather than being driven by ego or the approval of others

Damian Killikelly

Written by Damian Killikelly

After a variety of experiences working in accountancy and sales for 13 years, I was lucky enough 17 years ago to find my vocation – training. Doing something you genuinely love is life-changing. I strongly recommend if you haven’t found your own vocation that you keep searching and taking the chances and opportunities that come along – it is never too late! I passionately believe that behaviour change is only sustainable when it is embedded in daily life –not just professionally but personally. The more we see the benefits in our most important relationships, the more motivated we are to continue. I am privileged to see these changes in my participants but also to be constantly challenged through their growth to look at myself and my own development.